Shaft Jackson's South I Sim: A Steady Progression

There is an amazingly progressive sub community in Second Life, a community that began more than four years ago as the brainchild of SL Resident Shaft Jackson. The community he began, South I, is spread out over 5 Sims and is a vibrant representation of the steady evolution of the Black community in Second Life.

South I is widely known as the first Black owned and operated community Sim in Second Life. It opened its doors in December of 2004, just two months after Shaft and his friends made the transition from TSO (The Sims Online) to Second Life.

The first business that the Sim opened was a club they carried over from TSO.

"We started on an 8,192 square meter lot. That is where we opened, Da Hot Spot. I'm not sure if we were the first to build a Black community here, but we tried to create an environment for everyone," Shaft says.

The premise behind creating the community was to provide a place for everyone to hang out, make money and avoid the drama. As his organization grew it became a fraternity of sorts, which Shaft affectionately refers to as his family.

South I’s family is represented by the greek letters Sigma Iota Sigma and its members are more commonly known as the South I Souljaz. If a resident is interested in becoming a member of the South I Souljaz, they first must go through an intake process.

Cherise Benavente, a new recruit, became interested in the South I community after she heard about the positive message behind its organization.

“I think its a great organization. It empowers the women in SL and teaches them new things, how to run a business, how to host and be approachable. We help each other with any talents we have,” Cherise says.

New recruits are introduced to the existing members and interviewed about their goals and issues in Second Life. If any problems are existing as far as housing, lack of knowledge or relationship issues, South I’s management becomes involved and helps the new recruit to solve the issue.

Each recruit is taught a skill or a trade and trained to open and operate their own business. If a member of South I has successfully operated a particular business, from a clothing store to a television studio to learning how to be a photographer, any new recruit who is interested in that business is offered the opportunity to learn from the skilled business person and then receive help with starting their own business.

After the intake process is completed, the new South I family members are asked to continue to be a part of the South I community by sharing their knowledge with any future recruits and they are offered the opportunity to house their business on the family Sim.

Shaft has created two modern buildings which operate as headquarters for the South I Souljaz. The women’s sorority house and the men’s fraternity house are used for business and family meetings and serve as a place for family members to congregate and share ideas.

This fascinating community involvement defeats the ‘crabs in a bucket’ mentality that has plagued the real life Black community for centuries. Because of this progressive movement, participation in this official community has remained consistent over the years. Currently there are between 15 and 20 members who actively participate in family meetings, strategic planning and helping new recruits to adjust and prosper as residents of SL.

Newbie Experience- Entyce Goldlust

"I live like a rich spoiled brat... can't do that in RL!" - Entyce Goldlust, New Resident of SL

When you join Second Life and begin your new journey, it's often an overwhelming and addictive experience. SL Resident Entyce Goldlust shares her newbie experience with us.

Mistee Jaxxon: What first atrracted you to SL?

Entyce Goldlust: Well I joined on May 6, 2008. I guess that is my "Rez date" (the date you signed up to become a member, which is equivalent to your new birthdate). I came to SL because a friend of mine was up here for a while and he was always telling me about it but I would blow him off. LOL. Anyway he finally convinced me by telling me that there was a growing Black population on SL. He is white in RL (real life). He told me that he had run into Black people and they were cool. That intrigued me. So here I am.

Mistee Jaxxon: What have been your most amazing experiences?

Entyce Goldlust: OMG so many but I have to say that the most amazing was my first week on here! It was so crazy. My friend introduced me to a girl that takes picures on SL. Her prices were too much for a someone new to SL so she sent me to another photographer who is now my SL Dad. So in my first week I was adopted by my wonderful SL family. I have a sister LaLa, a Brother Lloyd and a Mom and Dad and a million aunts and a grandma too! It was great they just embraced me and made my first SL experience unforgettable.

Mistee Jaxxon: How did you choose your skin, your friends and your activities?

Entyce Goldlust: The friend that introduced me to SL, he took me around and showed me where to buy skin and hair and clothes and he gave me a crash course in SL nitelife which is what I do most of the time. LOL. He told me about all of the hottest clubs, he sent me the Landmarks. I learned so much in a small period of time. I was so lucky. He even helped me pick my name LOL. He left the game but he left me with a lot of knowledge and there is still so much to learn.

Mistee Jaxxon: What advice would you give to other newbies trying to become accustomed to SL?

Entyce Goldlust: I would say to be very outgoing and friendly. Don't be afraid to ask questions and well, it's all about getting a great skin and clothes. LOL. Make sure you decide if you will work or have a business so you will get that out of the way early. Also beware of unscrupulous contests and so called modeling groups that take your money. Make lots of friends (be choosey) and HAVE FUN!! I would also say if you are new to SL, look me up I'm newbie friendly!

Mistee Jaxxon: What is the biggest benefit of being in SL?

Entyce Goldlust: The people, the people and the people! They are great! Some of them are a little quirky but just like in real life you have to be careful. You learn a lot about business and you get to try your hand at being creative.

Mistee Jaxxon: How does SL affect your real life?

Entyce Goldlust: Well at first I didn't get any sleep. LOL! But I am learning how to manage my SL and RL.

Mistee Jaxxon: What is something that you do in SL that you can't do in real life?

Entyce Goldlust: OMG I just bought a piece of land that I named Entyce Isle and I am turning it into my little piece of paridise on SL. I rent a Beach house with 3 levels that I can change the texture of the walls, floors and windows whenever I want. I live like a rich spoiled brat... can't do that in RL! LOL!

Second Style Magazine Publisher: Being Black Is A Benefit

"I love the way the darker tones look with a lot of the really popular color palettes.."- Celebrity Trollop- Publisher, Second Style Magazine

Who always has the skinny on the latest fashion designs sweeping over sims in Second Life? Of course it's the publisher of Second Style, SL's hottest fashion magazine.

When I caught up with Celebrity Trollop, the force behind the SL publication that receives nearly 60,000 unique visitors to their web properties which includes Second Style Magazine, Men's Second Style (blog for all things male fashion), Second Style Fashionista (women's fashions), a podcast "Stylecast" and a Second Style Fashion Network which is a federation of top notch fashion blogs that cover a specific niche like hair, freebies, shoes, and "sexy stuff" their fashion magazine, various blogs and spin off fashion publications.

Back in early 2006, Celebrity rezzed in-world and immediately became a fashion magnet. She admits spending up to $150 real life dollar per month, dressing up her avatar. She decided that she needed a way to keep track of all of the new releases that she wanted to check out, so she started blogging about them. Only 10 days after she launched her fashion blog, she had a private meeting with Second Style's magazine's Josie Hamilton. In preparation for the launch her magazine and Josie needed an editor with a detailed fashion sense to pull together all of the editorial. Celebrity agreed to do it.

When Josie decided to take a break from SL, Celebrity jumped in and purchased the publication turning it into a landmark Second Life publication. But, just how are the Second Life fashion trends created in a virtual world where anyone can virtually become a stylist?

"We have a monthly staff meeting where Iris Ophelia, who is my managing editor, collects ideas for upcoming issues from our whole staff," Celebrity says. "I'd say we have a pulse on what's popular and stylish in SL during any given month with our amazing staffers."

Over the course of her career as a fashion guru on Second Life, Celebrity's avatar has undergone a dramatic change that may reflect her love for her personal beauty icons Tyra Banks, Iman and Naomi Campbell. Her 'tan' has deepened significantly, and is now considered to be an Afro-inspired skin. Celebrity, who is a white male in real life says that there is a pronounced benefit to wearing dark skin in the fashion world.

"To be honest I love the way the darker tones look with a lot of the really popular color palettes," Celebrity reveals. "What makes silver and gold metallics pop? Dark skin. What kind of canvas plays off bright neon colors to stunning effect? Dark skin. Now, since I've made the choice to be dark skinned in SL, I'd have to say I've become more conscious of the fact that there are a lot more pale skin tones around me."

"My true feeling is that being Black in Second Life has only been a benefit to me," Celebrity continues. "I love how my avatar looks and I get tons of compliments, seriously, look at my flickr page, on the way I style her. As far as experiencing "blackness" in SL, I'm not really sure that I have. I can't say that I've had anyone overtly change the way they behave around me since I've switched skin tones that I've noticed. Most people accept your avatar as she is, whether she's a plywood box or a dark skinned fashion model.

Being Black- My Choice

"If I could have chosen my skin color, I would have been Black..."- Jahman Blessed

If you're a fan of Afro influenced music on SL you've probably run into Jahman Blessed spinning the tunes at various nightclubs on the club circuit. As a highly sought after DJ in SL, he'll wave, dance and play your favorite requests from his personal collection of soul-inspired music.

His thick multi-colored dreads hang well below his shoulders. His creamy dark skin seems to shine beneath the club lights. What you can't tell by looking at him is the eery fact that in real life Jahman Blessed looks nothing like the man in the picture. His real skin is as pale as the average caucasion, but Jahman will not claim to be white.

On the very day that I catch up with him for a brief interview, Jahman says he has just experienced his first bout of racism on SL.

During a set as a DJ at one of the clubs he plays for, a club patron called him a n****. The club patron and was immediately banned by the club owner.

"I felt very angry about it," Jahman explains. "Inside we all have the same color. It shouldn't matter whether my skin is Black or white on the outside. Mama Africa is the mother of the human race and I care for my parents. All kinds of good music has their roots in Africa."

A 52-year-old man from Brazil, Jahman has had a healthy lifetime of connecting with his African roots.

"Growing up, most of my friends were Black," Jahman says. As an adult in real life and SL he often encounters narrow minded people who are conditioned to believe that Black people are inferior.

"When I meet a very discriminative person, I will often ask them, 'What will you do if you reach to your God before death and realize that he is Black?'"

Jahman counters the above statement by stating that he does not believe that God is Black.

"God has no color, but color has love. I only said that to give the person something to think about."

From the various shades of coa coa complected women to the unique styles of dress that represent the Afro-influenced lifestyle, Jahman is fascinated by it all.

"I didn't get the chance to be able to choose my skin color," Jahman explains. "On SL, I can. If I could have chosen my skin color, I would have been Black."

Community Investors, Inc. Non-Profit Success in SL

When 38-year-old Aphrodite Rau joined the SL community she enjoyed the social aspects that being a part of the community offered her. As she built friendships and shared a few details about her real life with new friends, she found that the people she met on SL took a strong interest in her non profit organization, Community Investors Incorporated a organization that provides after school programs, tutoring and mentoring programs, computer internet access centers, guidance courses on pure pressure, drugs, domestic violence and educational classes.

The organization also provides heaters, blankets, food, water, and cooling units to children and the elderly.

Aphrodite took a chance and began introducing her non-profit to the residents of SL and has found a strong support base for donations and encouragement.

"We were founded in 2005 and became tax exempt in 2006," Aphrodite explains. "The need to bring awareness to our cause is great since it is a problem in all parts of the country and the more awareness we can bring in SL the more people can help to support us in real life providing us the opportunity to expand in as many areas as possible helping people to enhance themselves."

The company's staff consists of volunteers and Aphrodite says that all donations are allocated for use in the various programs that Community Investors, Inc. offers.

"Our main office is located in Church Point, Louisiana," Aphrodite says. "We do not have a Sim on SL. We use our website to bring SL into our real life program, providing others in world the opportunity to connect with us ask questions, see pictures of the Center, with a physical address and phone number for some one who would rather speak to a person directly."

The Second Life promotion of her real life non-profit has expanded her business immensely. During the past week she held a promotion on SL and it led to her website receiving more than 400 hits in one day, which shows that people were interested in her organization.

When asked why she decided to combine her real life passion with SL, Aphrodite replies, "I know only that it is my vocation, it is my passion, and doing what I do is as intricate a part of me as being a wife and a mother. It's inexplicable, perhaps. I know, however, that we can not separate our deeds from our being or from our purpose. We all serve a purpose on this earth. And all on this earth, must serve. I may not be able to tell you why I serve, but I can tell you that I serve with great passion, great zeal, and with great humility."

Video Producer Lashey Lovell- She Got It by 2 Pistols

SL Video Producer Lashey Lovell rocks this original video for the song She Got It by 2 Pistols.

Delta Omega Phi SL's First Multicultural Sorority

"You gain the opportunity to experience a true friendship." - Iceis Dagger, DOP founding member.

To create a more unified community among Black women in SL, the SL sorority Delta Omega Phi was born.

Delta was created in October 2007 as a tribute to the sisterhood in the National Black Sorority Delta Sigma Theta.

The Second Life sorority adopted the colors red, white and gold and created a crest and other greek paraphanelia to show their pride in sisterhood.

With the exception of the National Black fraternities, Phi Beta Sigma and Omega Psi Phi, no other National Panhellenic organization has established an official presence on Second Life.

There are three other African American sororities that were created on Second Life but DOP is the first multicultural group of women.

"We understand that there are Delta Sigma Theta's in Second Life and it is not our intention to take away from what they began," explains Iceis Dagger, one of the founding sisters of Delta Omega Phi. "We only wish to add to our experience in Second Life. We welcome every woman who is interested in sisterhood."

Delta Omega Phi began with only 3 founding members and has increased to 22 members after the third line crossed this May.

Women who are interested in the sorority do participate in a pledge process that can last anywhere from 2 weeks to a month, depending on the fortitude of the pledges.

"We all come from diverse backgrounds and we support every Black sorority and fraternity in this game," Iceis explained.

The sorority meets on the Virtual Harlem Sim at the invitation of the Sim owner, Bryan Mnemonic, who is developing the Harlem community in an effort to unite the Black population of SL.

The women gather to plan fundraisers for charity, bringing in over $37,000 Lindens with their last event which they claim closed down the Sim due to being overcrowded. They also plan Ladies Nights and go surfing and shopping together. One of their greatest joys is partnering with their SL brother fraternity, Omega Phi Delta.

"We are trying to bring together the African American and Latino community through our sorority. There's enough love for everyone in our group," Iceis says. "You gain the opportunity to experience a true friendship with a vast array of different personalities and experiences. That's the best part, we respect each other's views."

Current members of Delta Omega Phi

Founding Sisters:
Gynni Cordeaux, Iceis Dagger and Fantasy Pinkenba

Big Sisters:
Geniffer Cordeaux, Delacia Carter, LadyLouis Capone, Carmona Indigobee, Destiny Soularys, Dagostino Brittany and GilesButterfly Winnfield

New Big Sisters:
2cool2hate Gaudio, Shelby Matfield, Keelani DoobieSpice, Whitfield Wonderful, AlexandreTameeka Wright, Arabia Destiny, Shaynice Anthony, Mecca Alter and CherishMonetSweet Thibedeau

The Barbosa Brothers- SL's Biggest Names In Adult Entertainment

"If they pay for it, we'll be whatever they want us to be." - Maleek Barbosa


Question: Which SL career will allow you to earn up to $8,000L over a two hour shift?
Answer: Male Exotic Dancing

I caught up with SL Adult Entertainment icons, brothers Maleek and Rashawn Barbosa and asked them give us a little peek into their exotic dancing empire. The RL brothers from Philadelphia agreed to dish the dirt on what it's like to be the most requested male dancers in the virtual world.

"Well, when I was little my Mama had a boyfriend and he was a stripper." Maleek explains. "So when she would come home she would get on the phone and tell her friends about how good he looked and what he could do. I always wanted to be a stripper since then, but I couldn't do it in RL, so I decided to do it here."

Maleek, who says he is a police officer in RL, joined SL first and then introduced his older brother Rashawn, an accountant to the lifestyle. A month after they adopted the surname Barbosa Maleek joined Club 24K as a dancer and Rashawn also became interested in dancing as a career. A year later, they now do private shows, bachelorette parties, intimate massages and act as escorts if need be.

The Barbosa brothers say they can bring in as much as $8,000 Linden per show and they perform about 20 shows per month. During the Spring and Summer months, their show demands can sometimes double due to the amount of people marrying on SL. It seems that every woman wants the Barbosa brothers to perform at their bachelorette party.

What makes the Barbosa brothers so unique? Some say it's the way they interact with the crowd during their shows.

"I know what women want to hear," Maleek says. "And I tell them. I love women and I respect them, but I tell them the truth."

From spiraling pirouettes to booty claps and screaming orgasms, the Barbosa brothers have taken the Male exotic revue to another level. Maleek's "member" is fully interactive. One click and audience members can stroke, suck, pinch or even kick him in the groin area. If Maleek is fully aroused, he can even ejaculate on surprised guests.

No, the Barbosa brothers' shows are not for the faint at heart.

Their personalities are playful, yet business-like. Rashawn, 29, seems to be the laid-back brains behind the business while Maleek, 28, is more of a jokester. He even showed up to the interview stark naked and performed his saucy, sweat inducing dance while we chatted.

"I'm a performer," Maleek announces. "I'm like Michael Jackson and he's Tito. It's a party wherever I go. You see me butt naked right now? That's how I roll."

"They already know they're going to get their money's worth in the end," Rashawn says. "There's not a single performance where we don't get invited to a private get-together after the show."

These private get-togethers upon special request have increased the Barbosa's wallet size significantly. The amount of money they make from these trysts has led some to believe that they are high-end male escorts.

Maleek replies to the rumor, "If they pay for it, we'll be whatever they want us to be."

The Barbosa brothers say they will never stop dancing as long as they are on SL. They do have other interests like becoming real estate developers and they believe their consistent income from their exotic dance revue will place them in a position to achieve their dream.

SL Careers- Exotic Dancer

"It's only pixels."- Porsha Gears, SL Exotic Dancer



It's late on Friday night as SL Resident Porsha Gears replaces her glamorous day-wear with a hot and sexy police uniform and heads out to Club Def.

Porsha isn't on duty protecting the premises, her plans for the evening are even more exciting. Porsha is an SL Exotic Dancer.

She works the pole and swings those hips, batting those brilliant brown eyes at club patrons while adding the sizzle to the Club Def's hip hop atmosphere.


But Porsha isn't the only one hot enough to use her virtual assets to sustain her virtual lifestyle, many more women are joining SL and using their dance skills to bring in the Lindens.

The 23-year-old graduate student from New York joined SL after hearing about it in one of her classes.

"The SL experience began as an experiment. It has turned into a bit more than that," Porsha says. "I began with viewing this from the perspective of virtual social spaces- right. But it's become much more than that. I belong to several communities here in SL."

Besides meeting people and hanging out with her SL friends, Porsha admits that she has a shopping habit that costs her between 500 and 1000 Lindens per day.

"I don't think that's a lot. I love fashion!" Porsha admits. "I think it's fun, plus there are tons of stores in SL."

If you're really a part of the SL community, you have a home that you own or pay rent for and you have to change clothes everytime you go out. You can either get a job on SL or buy virtual money (Lindens) with your real money to pay for the things you want to do.


Being an SL exotic dancer supports Porsha's SL lifestyle."You can make as much as you work, but it really depends on the club and the club's patrons," Porsha says. "Some clubs people do not tip, whereas others, the owners make sure you are taken care of. But the most I have made is 1400L in one night and it does support my lifestyle. I'm living rent free right now in a house so, no worries."

There's no real danger involved with being an exotic dancer, according to Porsha. It's all about the image, she says.

"As I get dressed I wonder if my gear is too whorish, then I remember that it's only pixels. But the cutier the outfit hopefully the better the tips. In SL we don't dance as an art- we dance and we have the responsibility of looking good. When I hop on the pole it's fun, I enjoy it. It's exciting and the added benefit is that it helps pay my SL bills."

In real life men have typically turned their backs on women who dance at clubs but Porsha says that men embrace the career choice in SL.

"Guys are always tryin to holla- after all it's SL. I mean I've had several guys who are looking for SL slaves and they want me to do it-- but I'm not that girl. I've met guys that just want to chat and be friends, some that want the red light special --- again I'm not the red light special girl," she says with a laugh.

"I don't really have to work in SL," Porsha explains. "I do it because it's fun and I like the people at the club I'm working for."

Porsha tosses her head back and grins. "Dancing is fun! Want a lap dance?"

Second Life Kids- Little Black Girl

By Mistee Jaxxon

"Maya was a healing point for me honestly."

The first few days of her SL experience, MayaBallinger Vella was disgusted by the interactions she had with most of the adults on SL. She decided that she didn't want to be a part of that so she deleted her first account and re-emerged as an SL kid.

Maya is now a 7-year-old in SL and chooses to physically progress stage by stage through the human course of development, changing the shape of her avatar as she feels she is maturing.

"I love being able to choose how and when I mature," Maya says. "You plan everything in this game and I plan by how I feel. So when it's time to move on or past [a stage in life], I do. Someday I will be an old lady in SL," Maya giggles.

Today Maya is enjoying her life as a vibrant 7-year-old. Every Sunday she attends church at the River of Life Center and spends time with her church family.

While she doesn't have parents, at one point she did, but the tale that surrounds that adventure is a sad one indeed.

The 30-year-old woman from Pennysylvania came to SL over a year ago and quickly decided that she wanted to be an SL Kid. Before she deleted her first account she met her future parents PapiChulo vella and Jiji Ballinger.

When she re-appeared as Maya in a cute little dress and an angelic smile, both PapiChulo and Jiji embraced her as their own. Their family life went along well until Maya noticed how controlling and abusive her father was to her mother. She and her mother were forced to leave him and lived in several apartments that were unsafe and placed them in abusive environments.

Eventually, Maya and her mother Jiji bought their own land, to later have it stolen from them by Maya's aunt.

The drama associated with family led to Maya declaring her independence.

"As Maya I do not have to be commited to anyone," she says. "I protect myself behind Maya as not to be hurt in relationships.That is why I made Maya. I had been hurt badly in relationships in RL and some online. So Maya was a healing point for me honestly."

As Maya became more confident in SL, it has made her become more confident in RL and she was able to create another adult av to test out adult interactions once again. She now uses the adult av more often than she uses the child av, but each role has a permanent part of her SL existence.

As luck would have it, her adult av has found real life love through SL. Her adult av is now married to her former SL mother, who also created a new av in order to marry her.

Their relationship has exploded beyond the SL screen into real life. The couple enjoys co-managing their SL business, Little Jewels, a children's clothing store.

"The best thing about being an adult av is being married to Sun and having my own family," Maya Shares.

Second Life Kids- Little Black Boy

By Mistee Jaxxon

"Kids don't have drama"

Don't blink twice when you're out and about on Second Life and in walks a feisty 6-year-old with a sawed off shot gun attached to his belt. He's not Dennis the Menace, he's Cigahy Mayako, but everyone calls him Ciggy.

In RL Ciggy is a 24-year-old Black man living in Atlanta, but in SL Ciggy uses his child-like avatar to gain attention and smiles from everyone he
encounters.

He rezzed in-world on December 5, 2007 after a good friend joined the SL community and he wanted to keep in contact with her. When he first logged on, he chose a simple adult avatar but after meeting several child avatars, he wondered what it would be like to be a child in SL. A friend helped him by showing him how to create a child-like shape and he fell in love with the resulting experience.

"I guess it's because I'm a big kid at heart," Ciggy says. "Because a part of your real life is displayed in your av and no matter how old I become, I'll always be a kid."

Although there are many female child avatars in SL, male child avatars are few and far between. But why aren't there more little boys on SL?

"I think everyone has this image of themselves and how things are suppose to be," Ciggy asserts."You're supposed to do this suppose to do that.They are putting limits on their imagination and not trying anything different. Every [male avatar] has to be buff with tattoos and fitting caps."

Although Ciggy may be a miniature version of the typical gangsta with a defiant attitude, a blinged out necklace and a gun strapped to his waist, he also carries a lollipop which he sucks periodically during our conversation.

Since SL was created specifically for adults complete with sexual themes and adult interaction, what exactly can a kid in SL do for fun?

"Well I do have adult friends that I hang out with," Ciggy says. "Just because I'm a kid I'm not gonna to abandon them. But as a kid, no, I DO NOT have sex on here. I don't have a girlfriend either."

Ciggy says SL does have attractions for the kid at heart."I have a couple of people spoiled. They love my company so I tend to spend most of my time visiting and what not. But I like to have fun, I watch movies at the theater, bowling, racing, anything to keep me out of trouble."

There's lots of trouble to get into on SL for a kid who doesn't have parents. Ciggy wanted parents when he first became a kid av but his parents tried to give him rules that he did not want to follow.

"They started giving me guidelines and saying I had to cut my hair. They tried to take my guns too," Ciggy says. "And that's just not me. You want me to be something I'm not. So I'd rather not deal with that."

The half-pint with the long, dark permed hair giggles as he admits that there are a few occasions where he steps out of his kid av. "I'll be honest, 90% of the time, I'm a kid on here because I was an adult before I was a kid but, there are events where you can't be a kid."

He's talking about club events where promoters throw themed parties like, 'Best in Tattoo's' or 'Best in Boxers'. During these type of parties, Ciggy grows up just for a little while.

"For me personally, I like the attention, I'm known a lot of places and by a lot of people and most of them I've never even been introduced to," Ciggy reveals. "If you play a kid like you're supposed to, it might be one of the greatest freedoms you'll ever have because kids don't have drama. We just color and play that's it."